In the life of every woman, friends play a big role. It’s good when there is someone to talk heart to heart, discuss the latest gossip, or just laugh at a cup of tea.
Often a girlfriend is the closest person to whom the most sacred is trusted. Perhaps the most popular topic for discussion is relationships with men.
It will be better if you do not begin to tell your friend about your personal life, especially about relationships with your husband. Many stories are known when the closest friend betrayed, in the hope of capturing the object of discussion, that is, the very man.
Even if you do not take into account such cases, it is worth confessing that they usually give very bad advice. Perhaps they want the best, but if you follow their recommendations, you will soon lose your chosen one.
Below are 10 tips girlfriends do not need to listen to if your man is dear to you.
10. It is better to discuss problems in relationships with friends than with your own man.
Probably every woman has been in such a situation. If the partner did not live up to her expectations or if he developed bad habits, the girl will not talk to him, she will complain to her friends.
It is very difficult to decide on a conversation with a man, to express his complaints to him. It is much easier to discuss it with other women and get “valuable” advice. Most often advised to leave and find yourself "someone better."
There are no perfect people in the world, and your partner, most likely, does not even realize that you are annoyed by his habits or addictions. Solving this problem is very simple. Talk with your chosen one and continue to try to discuss the issues that arise only with him.
9. A man must pay for you everywhere
Most Russian women are sure that a real man will never allow a lady to pay the bill.
If your partner is not one of these, and prefers to pay evenly, this does not mean that it is time to quit. Each person has their own views on financial issues.
If friends are trying to impose their opinions on you, do not listen to them. Let them deal with their men.
If you do not want your couple to have problems and disputes over money, discuss in advance who pays for what. The main thing is that you feel comfortable and do not worry about monetary issues.
8. Make him jealous
Women are experiencing a difficult period in a relationship when romance is giving way to everyday life, and a man in love no longer looks with enthusiastic eyes. Relations become smooth and calm.
In this case, friends recommend a light flirt with another man. They say that jealousy will kindle the fire of passion, and your chosen one will understand that you are a unique woman.
Do not rush to use this method. Some men really fill their beloved with flowers and gifts, compliments and gentle words, if only she would not look at others. Unfortunately, such units.
Most men will make a scandal or simply pack their things and leave silently. Appreciate what you have. There are many other ways to refresh relationships, jealousy is far from the best and most effective.
7. Better to be with an unworthy man than one
Never listen to your friends if they say that it’s better to endure an unworthy man than to swim freely.
Perhaps they say so well-meaningly. It is known that women are very afraid of loneliness. They want to get married, have a baby, but this does not mean that you need to grab the first man that comes across and endure it for the rest of your life.
If your partner is addicted to alcohol or drugs, allows himself to raise a hand against you, insults, humiliates, drop him immediately.
Do not waste time on it, do not be afraid to become free. So you will have a much greater chance of meeting a worthy person who will make you happy.
6. Why doesn't he make you an offer? Give him an ultimatum
You have been dating for quite some time, but the man is in no hurry to make you an offer. Friends are advised to put him in front of a choice: either you get married, or leave. This is very bad advice.
You yourself must decide what to do in this case. If everything suits you, then do not demand an engagement ring from your partner. Most likely, he is not ready yet, and you need to wait a bit.
If you don’t want to meet again, but dream of marriage and children, tell your chosen one about this, not your friends. If he loves you, then he will definitely make an offer.
5. He's older / younger than you. Why do you need this?
If your friends are worried about the age of your chosen one, let them know that this is only your business. Often they do not think what they are saying. They advise finding younger, richer, richer, more beautiful.
It is your choice, no one can influence it. Everyone has different tastes and preferences, but love does not ask for a passport. If you are not confused by the age difference, you should not worry.
4. He must give you expensive gifts.
Recently, people have been paying too much attention to finance. If a man does not give gifts, then he is greedy, and with this you should not have any common affairs.
Women themselves are to blame for the fact that their gentlemen come on dates with empty hands. They do not know how to enjoy gifts. Even if a man gave you the most terrible gift on Earth, accept it with enthusiasm. Be sure to thank him for his attention and generosity. Then next time he will want to please you again.
Do not demand flowers and gifts from a man. He may have financial difficulties, or maybe in his family it was not customary to give gifts.
3. You must spend time together
As soon as you say that your man went fishing, went on a camping trip or somewhere else, criticism will come down on you from all sides. If friends say that they need to spend the weekend together, most likely they are alone.
Close people should rest from each other, devote time to hobbies, friends. This has a positive effect on relationships. People have conversation topics, some even get bored.
In addition, it is unlikely that your man will like it if you want to deprive him of communication with friends and will control his every move.
2. Scandals are the best way to get things done.
If you are of the same opinion, get ready to be alone. Men hate women's tears and tantrums.
If you make scandals on every minor occasion, your chosen one will run away from you as soon as possible.
If your man is dear to you, learn to negotiate, compromise. Do not listen to the stories of friends who keep their chosen ones on a “short leash”.
1. Tell him about the successful husband of a friend
To motivate your man, it’s enough to tell that the girlfriend’s husband is much more successful than him. So consider all your friends.
Do not do this under any circumstances. It will be very unpleasant for your man that you compare him to someone. If you still doubt that this method does not work, imagine yourself in the place of your husband.
If he sets your friends' wives as an example, what will you do? Most likely, slam the door loudly.
Never compare your loved one with other men. You yourself have chosen him, and he is not at all obliged to change at your first request.