When the relationship is just beginning, the man and woman think that they will definitely have a different way. Let the rest quarrel, be jealous, deceive, nothing like this will ever happen to them.
But time passes, and relations begin to deteriorate. After a few years, lovers admit that their love story is like millions of others. First, a candy-bouquet period, love, passion, and then cold, mutual reproaches and claims.
To prevent this from happening with you, remember that you need to work on relationships. Feeling is certainly good, but love alone is not enough.
You need to learn how to feel a partner, understand him, discuss problems and come to a common solution.
Each pair also has its own “enemies”, which you need to know in person. It's about things that kill love. If you feel that you are losing contact with a partner, and the relationship is getting worse every day, read our article. Perhaps she will help you fix it.
10. Quarrels
Nobody has managed to avoid quarrels. That's just very important not to cross the line. No need to insult a partner, call him names, remember previous mistakes.
Some people are so unrestrained that they allow themselves to raise a hand against a loved one. All this does not pass without a trace. Even when you make peace, the chosen one will remember what you said to him during the quarrel.
If the partner made a mistake, and you understand that you can’t control yourself, postpone the conversation. Let yourself calm down a bit, think over your words and actions. When you feel that you have calmed down, you can start a conversation. Any conflict can be resolved, you just need to control your emotions.
9. Silence
For this reason, too many pairs have broken up. Usually people think that their soulmate should learn to read minds. But how else can one explain the fact that partners are silent about their problems?
If something doesn’t suit your relationship, you can tell your partner about it, talk calmly, without any extra emotions. So more likely that the chosen one will understand and try to improve. Learn to talk. Feel free to talk about feelings, about money, about sex.
The less understatement between you, the more transparent your relationship will be. By the way, talk not only about the bad, but also the good. If the chosen one has pleased you, thank him. He will be very pleased.
8. Money
As soon as people begin to live together, financial problems begin. Of course, after all, each of them is accustomed to independently manage their funds.
Before you get together, discuss all financial matters: a general or separate budget, payment for renting an apartment or utilities, buying products and household chemicals.
But don't be petty. Do not blame your partner for spending less than you. Never say such phrases: “This time you pay. I paid last time. "
If you notice that you regret your money, maybe the thing is different? Perhaps you fell out of love with your partner or you never loved him at all. After all, for a loved one, nothing is sorry.
7. Mobile phone
How does a mobile phone affect relationships? You will be surprised, but gadgets really spoil the relationship. During the candy-bouquet stage, lovers correspond and talk a lot. The phone is perceived as an assistant.
After some time, the situation changes, he becomes an archer. A man and a woman do not communicate as before, they sit on social networks, chat with friends or read news.
Women spend a lot of time on phone conversations with friends. At such moments, the partner feels abandoned, lonely. Communication is gradually disappearing, a man and a woman spend together less and less time.
If this situation is familiar to you, put down the phone, hug your loved one, ask how he is doing, and continue to do this as often as possible.
6. Jealousy
There is an opinion that love is impossible without jealousy, but very often it turns out to be destructive and spoils everything. A man harasses a woman, she feels offended, or vice versa. For this reason, many pairs break up.
By the way, jealousy is a common cause of murder. In order for the relationship in a couple to be trusting, it is necessary to behave appropriately: not to give or seek reasons for jealousy.
5. Comparisons
Sometimes a woman begins to compare her man with others. And vice versa. It often happens that after listening to friends' stories about an ideal relationship, partners begin to find faults in each other.
Do not compare your chosen one with familiar men. Maybe, in fact, the relationship of your friends is not so perfect.
Separately, it is worth noting the comparison of real partners with former ones. This is very unpleasant. Some thus try to praise: "You cook better than Katya", "You are more beautiful than Lena."
A rather dubious compliment, it is unlikely that it will cause a partner a sense of joy. This is just another reminder that you still have not forgotten about your former love.
4. Lying to a partner
Lies can destroy even the strongest relationships. If a partner finds out that you regularly cheat on him, scandal cannot be avoided. Most likely, he will not be able to forgive you for cheating. Of course, this concerns serious issues.
Try to be honest with each other, no need to cheat on trifles. Sometimes absurd situations arise, all due to the fact that lovers are afraid to tell each other the truth. If your girlfriend has prepared a new dish and it is impossible to eat, admit it to her. Otherwise, you will have to eat it for many more years. She will just think that you really liked it.
If a man gave perfumes with a disgusting smell, do not use them, say that you do not like them. Or the next holiday, get exactly the same bottle of perfume.
3. Lying to oneself
Often people do not deceive a partner, but themselves. If the relationship is completely ruined, ask yourself a few questions.
Do you love this person? Would you like to spend the rest of your life with him? If you answer without a doubt, “Yes,” then fight for your love. If you stop loving, do not torment yourself and your partner.
Some women (and men) start a relationship just because it is “time”. Nearby is the wrong person.
It’s not easy to be near a person to whom you don’t feel anything. And what will happen if you meet your true love, but it will be too late?
2. Goal mismatch
Another common reason couples break up. The girl hopes to get married. She already looked after the dress and made a list of guests. The man has his own plans for this. He wants to build a career, go abroad, buy a house on the coast. Sooner or later, they will start conflicts.
It often happens that a woman dreams of a child, and a man asks to wait. Only he can become a father at the age of 50, and every year she has less and less chances.
Talk with a partner, ask him about the future. Perhaps your goals do not match, and you have to leave.
1. Lack of personal space
When a man and a woman begin to meet, they want to give all their free time to each other. Time passes, and there is no longer such a crazy desire to spend together every minute. This is not necessary.
Each person should have his own personal space where he rests from other people, goes about his business or thinks about life. Remember, the less time you spend with a person, the higher it is valued.
Do not sit at home, meet friends, attend various events. You can keep interest in each other, you will always find topics for conversation.